Wednesday, April 8, 2026
To my dearest Lou,
When I received the news, I broke down in tears, unable to believe it. It was only about two weeks ago that we spoke on FaceTime,
and you were making me laugh with your jokes just like you always did.
Our journey began 36 years ago when you and Barbara welcomed me as my homestay hosts. That was our very first meeting. The following year, I quit my job to start my life as a student in the U.S. That life lasted for 11 years—through my studies and my career as a teacher.
It was the greatest challenge of my life, but you and Barbara were always by my side, supporting me with such incredible warmth.
You both went above and beyond to ensure my life in America started smoothly. You invited me to every holiday celebration, teaching me so much and giving me countless, irreplaceable experiences. Even back then, you were such a warm family, loving and being loved by your three daughters and five grandsons. You were my inspiration.
That love and those bonds have been passed down through the generations, and today, I see that you are adored by your many great-grandchildren as well. You were truly a great presence, one who brought warmth to the hearts of everyone around you.
To me—someone who tends to take things too seriously—you showed me how to relax and embrace life through your jokes and your own way
of living. So many memories are rushing through my mind like a kaleidoscope. Even after I returned to Japan, you always sent me warm messages and cared deeply for me and my family here. From the photos Debbie sends, it is more than clear just how much you were cherished by your family.
Although losing you is heartbreaking for those of us left behind, I find comfort in knowing you will be reunited with Barbara and Michael. I am certain you will be surrounded by love and happiness there as well. Please rest in peace.
Lou, a part of me still feels as though you are still there, living happily in New Jersey.
Thank you for all the love you gave me. And thank you for accepting me as your Japanese daughter.
With all my love and gratitude,
Your Japanese daughter,
Hisako
